How to Support an LGBTQ+ Friend or Family Member Struggling with Mental Health

Mental health challenges affect millions of people, but minorities such as members of the LGBTQ+ community often face unique obstacles that make seeking support even more difficult. For example, LGBTQ youth are at a higher risk of experiencing anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts due to discrimination, rejection, and social stigma. Studies show that transgender youth and individuals questioning their gender identity experience even higher rates of distress.

As a family member, friend, or ally, your support can make a profound difference in their well-being. Creating a safe and affirming space for LGBTQ people can help them feel seen, valued, and understood. At Positive Change Counseling Center, we believe in fostering inclusive mental health care. To make therapy more accessible for those who need support, we accept Blue Cross Blue Shield, Aetna, Anthem, United, Cigna, Magellan and SHARP Health Insurances.

Understanding the Mental Health Challenges LGBTQ+ People Face

The LGBTQIA community experiences mental health disparities at a higher rate than the general population due to factors such as:

• Social Stigma & Discrimination: Rejection, bullying, and marginalization can take a toll on mental health.

• Family Rejection: Many lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer individuals struggle with acceptance from family, leading to emotional distress.

• Lack of Affirming Support: Not having access to inclusive therapy or support groups can make it harder to cope.

  
  

As a result, LGBTQ+ individuals—especially youth—are at an increased risk of self-harm and suicide. Research shows that LGBTQ youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide compared to their non-LGBTQ peers. However, strong support from family and friends significantly reduces these risks.

How to Support the Mental Health of LGBTQ+ Loved Ones

If someone you care about is struggling, there are ways to help. Here are key ways to support your loved one through their mental health journey:

1. Respect Their Identity and Use Their Chosen Gender Pronouns

One of the most meaningful ways to affirm an LGBTQ+ friend or family member is by using their chosen gender pronouns and respecting their gender identity. This seemingly small act validates who they are and helps create a sense of safety and belonging.

2. Listen Without Judgment

Allow them to express their feelings without trying to “fix” them. Sometimes, simply being a compassionate listener is the best support you can offer. Let them share their experiences and validate their emotions.

3. Encourage Professional Mental Health Support

If your loved one is experiencing severe distress, encourage them to seek therapy. Support groups and LGBTQ-affirming counseling can provide tools to navigate mental illness and emotional well-being. Organizations like The Trevor Project offer crisis support and resources specifically for LGBTQ+ individuals.

4. Educate Yourself on LGBTQ+ Issues

Understanding the unique struggles that LGBTQ communities face can help you become a more informed and supportive ally. Learn about mental health challenges, social issues, and ways to advocate for inclusivity.

5. Be Mindful of Your Language and Actions

Avoid dismissive phrases like “It’s just a phase” or “Everyone struggles sometimes.” Instead, acknowledge their struggles and reinforce that their feelings are valid.

6. Offer to Help in Practical Ways

If your loved one is struggling with daily tasks, offer practical support—whether that’s helping them find a therapist, accompanying them to an appointment, or simply checking in on them regularly.

7. Encourage Connection with LGBTQ+ Support Groups

Being part of a supportive community can make a significant difference. Encourage your loved one to connect with LGBTQ+ support groups, whether in person or online. Finding a safe space where they feel understood can help them cope with health challenges.

Hope and Healing Are Possible

No one should have to face mental illness alone, and your support can play a vital role in their healing process. If someone you love is struggling, remind them that help is available.

At Positive Change Counseling Center, we provide compassionate, LGBTQ-affirming therapy to support the mental health of those in need. If you or someone you know needs immediate support, organizations like The Trevor Project offer 24/7 crisis counseling for LGBTQ youth in distress. Together, we can create a world where all LGBTQ+ individuals feel safe, valued, and supported in their mental health journey.